Love, Marilyn and Tiger

I'm sure that everyone and their dogs (who have access to the internet) have heard about/read of the scandal involving Tiger Woods and his many mistresses. Everyone is shocked, appalled, baffled, etc., etc., etc. Honestly, I definitely am dissappointed. I remember watching "The Tiger Woods Story" and thinking that he was a great example of hard work, and what a great role model he made. With that said...

I've been reading a lot of theories on men and women, and theories I've heard in the past have definitely crept up in my mind. The most believed one seems to be that it is in men's nature to spread their seed as far as possible, and it is in women's nature to want a man who will commit, and ultimately, provide a safe home for her and their family.

So obviously, these two things between men and women are conflicting.

In addition, what men and women look for (on a superficial) level are different, but upon closer inspection, not that different at all. Men look for a woman who physically is good looking - the .7 ratio between waist and hips being a great indicator of beauty, supposedly. Women on the other hand, want a man who makes a good living. This is basic sociology at its finest, people. A classic example of this, in my opinion, is Shawn and Larry King. But they are by no means the exceptions.

With the popularity of these two theories, it would be easy to get depressed, especially within the wake of the news that Tiger Woods did, in fact, cheat. With multiple women. We've heard reports across the nation about this.

But despite these theories, I'm going to still believe that real, true, passionate, unbridled love does exist. I believe that I can fall madly in love and grow old with someone.

It is no secret that I have been unlucky in love. But who cares? Only fools give up. I've had many amazing and horrible experiences with love, but I don't regret one of them. I have, overall, given each relationship I've been in a fair shot. When it hasn't worked out in the past, I still learned from them. In many cases, I still loved them. But I'm certainly not going to take the failures I've had in relationships as a tell-tale sign that I should give up on the "Happily Ever After" that I would love to one day have.

Because in reality, "Happily Ever After" isn't something that 'happens' to us. It's something that we create. It's hard work, and at some point, one or both parties WILL want to get out - it's gonna happen. It may not be spoken, but it will be felt. The secret is to work past that - to fall back IN love with that person, if needs be. I know that it is somewhat hypocritical for me to say that, but with my experiences, I've learned that most things can be worked through, if both parties are willing to make that absolute commitment to each other.

In the end, I'm not going to try and get a man to stay with me because that is supposedly in my nature, nor am I going to marry a man for money. In return, I expect the person that I want this "Happily Ever After" with to want to be with me for more than my good looks (Yeah, sue me. This isn't a humility blog.), and to keep his dick in his pants when times are tough. Because there will be tough times, but there will be amazing times also. Perspective is what keeps it in place.

After all, true love isn't conditional; it's unconditional. It matters even when you can't stand that other person. True love loves when the other person is the most unloveable; it happens.

Just a passing thought in my head that I needed to make permanent. I think Marilyn Monroe said it best when she said, "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." Thanks Marilyn, for saying what all of us need to hear. We would all do well to remember that about our "Happily Ever After".

K. The end.